Negotiating

Chotu wakes up at midnight and comes into my study. I am in the middle of sending out today’s 12d of Christmas email newsletter. I herd him back to the bedroom and explain to him that I need to work and that he needs to sleep, needless to say, to no avail! He wants to either be with me in the study or wants me to sleep with him. I set him up to sleep in my study!

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peacefully asleep
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Vivu update

Baby Vivu is a delight and is now excited about everything related to fire engines and firemen – he puts on his Fireman’s costume every single day​ ​and then assures​ ​everyone around to not worry as he will save them in case of a fire. He then runs around the house dowsing fires. In​ ​the mornings, he insists that I take him to​ ​his school via a​ ​circuitous route that passes a fire station, just so he can see the​ ​fire engines​ ​parked in front. He says “papa pleeeease take me from​ ​there” and when I ask him “why?” and that “we will be late for school”, he ​s​ays “because it makes me soooo…​ ​happy :)” which melts my heart and, like a fool, I spend the​ ​10 mins​ ​extra.

He’s making and losing friends very fast too..it seems it is a phase kids go through at this stage.. I am considered to be in his friends circle. When he is loving me, he responds to my question “baby Vivu who’s papa’s favourite baby?” with a happy “Vivaaaaan”. And when he’s upset at me for any one of many random reasons, he turns around and tells me “you aren’t my friend anymore” – like this morning when I didn’t agree to continue cuddling and sleeping with him past 7am 🙂

Montessori

3-6 years: sensory

  • social learning
  • problem solving
  • everything is a question

6-12 years: intellectual

Solid foundation

  • who is he
  • what is he capable of
  • independant

Approach: A->B. The system knows what’s next for them

In any school, look for:

  1. Joyful learning (engaging, active learning)
  2. Child centered and activity project based
  3. Science and Math (Technology)
  4. Social/emotional collaborative leadership
  5. Diversity and global education
  6. Creativity and design

3 Year cycle:

Year 1: introduction, social skills, Vocabulary expression, tactile skills

Year 2: practice, mathematical, scientific mind

Year 3: Mastery/ Normalization

Distribution:

Skills 50% Others 50% (no fear, dealing with unknowns)

 

Pneumonia

http://www.babycenter.com/0_pneumonia_10898.bc?showAll=true

Cough and fever are two of pneumonia’s main symptoms. Other symptoms can include weakness, vomiting, diarrhea, loss of appetite, headache, muscle pain, and trouble breathing. Pneumonia can strike anytime, but it usually shows up in winter and spring, often after a cold or other upper respiratory infection.

Bacterial and Viral

For bacterial pneumonia, doctors prescribe antibiotics. Viral pneumonia doesn’t respond to antibiotics, so treatment may be limited to rest and fluids. In fact, getting enough fluids is vital to fight the dehydration from rapid breathing and fever that’s often a side effect of pneumonia.

If your child has bacterial pneumonia, you may want to try running a cool mist humidifier. If she’s feverish and uncomfortable, you may want to give her the proper dose of acetaminophen or (if she’s 6 months or older) ibuprofen.

Practice good personal hygiene. Wash your hands and your child’s hands often to prevent the spread of germs. Don’t let your child share cups or utensils. Regularly wash all the places germy body parts might touch, like the phone, toys, doorknobs, and the refrigerator door handle.

http://www.drgreene.com/articles/pneumonia/

The length of the pneumonia depends on the specific organism causing it. Some pneumonias last as little as several days, although two to three weeks is more common. The cough can last even longer.

The diagnosis is usually based on history, physical examination, and chest x-ray. If a bacterial pneumonia is suspected, appropriate cultures of the sputum and blood are also important.

http://www.kidshealth.org.nz/pneumonia

Sometimes bacterial pneumonia develops during a viral infection. If this happens, your child will usually start with an illness like a cold for a few days, and then become much sicker quite quickly.

Antibiotics do not help in viral pneumonia. It is not always easy to tell if pneumonia is viral or bacterial. Doctors tend to use antibiotics when it is not clear which sort of pneumonia a child has. If your child has bacterial pneumonia, they will need antibiotics. If your child is young or sick enough to be in hospital, antibiotics are often given by a drip (into a vein).

A child usually takes a couple of weeks to fully recover. Over that time the immune (infection-fighting) system will be cleaning up the pneumonia. Coughing up phlegm (mucus or sputum) is part of the cleaning up process. The cough may last 1 or 2 weeks, or even longer.

If you are worried that the cough is getting worse again, or is not getting better after 4 weeks, you should take your child to see your doctor.

Albuterol

http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/druginfo/meds/a682145.html

Albuterol is in a class of medications called bronchodilators. It works by relaxing and opening air passages to the lungs to make breathing easier.

 When the inhalation aerosol is used to treat or prevent symptoms of lung disease, it is usually used every 4 to 6 hours as needed. 

Albuterol acts as a functional antagonist to relax the airway irrespective of the spasmogen involved, thus protecting against all bronchoconstrictor challenges

https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080818093948AA9LlQB

Albuterol is a beta 2 specific bronchodilator. This means that it is specific to the smooth muscles of the airways of the lungs and that it helps to open them up or dilate them. It is not a steroid. Steroids that are inhaled are corticosteroids and they help by acting as anti-imflammatory agents. Corticosteroids are much better than anabolic steroids since they work at the area where they are inhaled and they have much less systemic side effects. Meaning you won’t have all of the weight gain, pimples and emtional changes. Hope this helps

Stomach Flu

http://www.babycenter.com/0_stomach-flu-gastroenteritis_1190023.bc?showAll=true

http://www.kidsfirstpediatricpartners.com/stomach-flu/

Stomach flu, or gastroenteritis, is an inflammation of the lining of the digestive tract. Despite the name, it’s not caused by the influenza virus. The most common culprit is one of a number of other viruses, including rotavirus, adenovirus, calicivirus, and astrovirus.

But gastroenteritis can also be caused by a potentially more serious bacterial infection, such as Salmonella, Shigella, Staphylococcus, Campylobacter, or E. coli. Still other cases are caused by parasites such as giardia.

If your toddler has gastroenteritis, she may have diarrhea, vomiting, abdominal pain, fever, chills, and achiness. Her symptoms may be mild or severe, and they may last for just a few hours or for days, depending on the culprit.

If your child has a fever and seems uncomfortable, you may want to give her the appropriate dose of children’s acetaminophen or ibuprofen. Never give your child aspirin, which is associated with Reye’s syndrome, a rare but potentially fatal illness.

The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends that children with gastroenteritis resume a normal diet (staying away from fatty foods) as soon as possible. That includes such staples as complex carbohydrates (whole-grain breads and cereals), lean meats, yogurt, fruits, and vegetables.  if the bug kills your child’s appetite and she misses a few days of good nutrition, don’t worry. As long as she’s hydrated, she’ll be fine.

For toddlers and young children, use an ORS, which contains the right mix of salt, sugar, potassium and other nutrients to help replace lost body fluids.

Children older than 1 year may also have clear soups, clear sodas or juice mixed with water to help prevent dehydration. You should avoid giving your child plain water and dark sodas. Water alone does not contain enough salt and nutrients to help with dehydration. Dark sodas are typically very high in sugar and can irritate your child’s stomach.

oral rehydration solution, or ORS: Brands of ORS include Pedialyte, Ricelyte, Rehydralyte and the World Health Organization’s Oral Rehydration Solution (WHO-ORS). If you don’t have access to store-bought ORS, you can mix 8 teaspoons of sugar and 1 teaspoon of salt in a quart (4 cups) of water. This mixture lacks potassium but is otherwise a good ORS. You can supply some potassium by adding a cup of orange juice to your homemade ORS or feeding your child some banana.

If your child keeps vomiting, wait 30 to 60 minutes after the last time he or she vomited, and then give him or her a few sips of an ORS. Small amounts every few minutes may stay down better than a large amount all at once.

Diarrhea usually doesn’t last long. If it’s caused by an infection, diarrhea is a way for the body to get rid of the infection. Giving medicines that stop diarrhea may actually interfere with the body’s efforts to heal. Antibiotics are usually not necessary either. Talk to your family doctor if you think your child needs medicine.

Teach your child how to wash her hands thoroughly with soap and warm water after every bathroom visit and before meals or touching food. The same goes for you and other family members, as well as daycare staff.

Day 15: let’s call it done

Milk intake has come down below 10oz /day. The night wars have come to and end, at least as far as drinking milk goes. He seems to be happy with few ounces of water at around 6am.

Making him aware that it’s time to sleep is easy. The routine is for us to say goodnight to everyone around and then say “it’s time to sleep now”. We head to the bedroom. He points to the crib, I ask him if he wants to sleep in it, he shakes his head to tell me “no” and then runs and climbs on to the bed. We read a few books together. After that, I run through a round of good nights from all the characters of the particular story, turn off the lights, after which he turns around and goes to sleep – which takes another 15 mins or so.

Night routine too seems to have stabilized. After he’s asleep, I put him in his crib. He sleeps peacefully till around 1am or so, and then wakes up. Either comes to my bed, or if I am downstairs watching TV, he comes outside into the corridor and makes his presence known by fake crying.

Putting him back to sleep is a simple matter of holding him for 5 mins or so. I either let him sleep in the bed or put him back into the crib, where he sleeps till 6 or 7 and then the new day begins.

The next set of projects

  • align on a bed time routine, get him to sleep quickly in his crib, and then have him sleep through the night
  • get him to start talking

There’s light at the end of the tunnel…

7/13 – Day 6

The strong demands for “dudu” in the night are ebbing. However I need to get him to stay in his crib.  It’s not clear why he wakes up around 3am. And then wants to come into my bed to then go to sleep.

7/14 – Day 7

I am woken up at 3am by a little boy trying to get onto the bed. He’s walked by himself to the bed this time. The toddler bed has a small opening, I imagine, just for this. No yelling this time.

Typically if someone were to wake me up at 3am I would show intense irritation, and justifiably so. This interruption however feels strangely endearing. The marvels of parenthood!

He’s on the bed now and yelling for milk. I tell him “no dudu” to which he reacts by pouting and trashing his hands on my stomach. This needs to end, so I give him the bottle with 4oz of water. He drinks it and is fast asleep! This is seeming to be more about habit  than about milk.

Pick him up from school. I give him water and a cookie.  He gulps down around 4 (water bottle) caps full of water, pours a few more on himself, polishes off the cookie and sighs contentedly. The car ride back home is *very* peaceful.

Again, doesn’t  look like it’s a milk issue – a small snack seems to do the trick as well. I  being to wonder if the “milk habit” is our own doing motivated by convenience. Isn’t taking the simpler path really the cause of all problems? 🙂

Dinner: refusing to eat. Tried for a bit and give up – feeling a little guilty feeding him pasta and salmon every day! Decide to make him a smoothie – he insists I put it (“juice”) in the Bodybuilding.com shaker bottle. I make extra so I can have some too.. that doesn’t happen. He polishes off the entire thing >> put video here

7/15 – Day 8

What’s up with him waking up every day at the dot of 3am?

Dinner: not excited about having dinner.  After putting flour all over his head, took to his usual exercise of taking all the grains out of the cabinet on to the floor.

iPad app for Animal sounds. Seems to enjoy it. Took a long time ego fall asleep –  tossing and turning all over the bed. Night relatively calm

7/16 – Day 9

Woke up at around 1am and then again  – moved him to the crib once he was asleep and then he was out for the night. Looks like the problem is he isn’t able to put himself back to sleep.

Need to start working on a night time routine for him.

Journey continues Day 3-5

Day 3: His first Dry diaper day and “upset” redefined

I welcome his first dry diaper wake up day! No drama last night other than the usual 1-2 wake ups and the move to the bed. I wake him up at 7 am. He’s not fully done with sleep, but it is school day.

After school he is ready to have his milk and lets it be known. With great difficultly I put him in the car seat and buckle him up. He’s in his element now: starts yelling and keeps at it all the way home. That’s approximately 20 mins. He’s furiously banging his head to the car set back. Once that’s done he’s going side to side with hands flying. I am thinking I should have tightened his seat belt more.

He hits his hand to the car door hard. Yelps in pain and the decibel level of the crying goes up a notch. He decides to give the hand a rest and starts shaking his head rather strongly from side to side and around the axis of his neck. This is getting worrisome; I am having a hard time focussing on the driving. At the red light, I stop and look back at him. There’s snot all over his face! The vigorous head shaking and banging seems to have done a “neti” cleanse on him.

I am glad to get back home. I park the car, take a stabilizing breadth, and gladly hand over Mr. Mad to Lourdes with a sigh of relief. It takes me another hour to recover from the drive.

Thankfully the transition to bed later in the night is uneventful. He’s enjoying the zoo book!

Day 4: Chotu has a toddler bed now

The early morning drill of his coming to the bed continues. It’s a mystery why he gets up every 2-3 hours. I am not comfortable with him getting upset while he’s in the crib, as he might decide to jump over, but this time in anger, and hurt himself, so am happy to get him to the bed.

Problem though is that he’s getting big and strong now. I put him in the bed vertically, and in minutes he’s become horizontal with his legs digging and periodically jabbing into my mid section. He’s peacefully snoring, unaware that dear Daddy too needs to get his sleep. In the afternoon, I convert his crib into a toddler bed. My efficiency surprises me 🙂

Now even if he’s angry and decides to get off the crib, the fall is less than 1 feet (compared to around 4)

Day 5: Tables have turned

Today he wakes up at 3am and walks me to the mattress kept at the corner of the room on the floor. He wants to sleep on that now – the main bed doesn’t seem to be of much interest. We hang out together for 15 mins or so till he falls asleep, I put him into his crib, and wearily get onto my bed to get some sleep. Shouldn’t have watched that stupid movie till 2am!

6:30am Vivu, after a restful sleep with no demands made for milk, wakes up and comes to my bed, picks up the zoo book lying by the side of the bed and asks me to read it! That’s the last thing I want to do. I am hoping he goes back to sleep for at least an hour more. So I offer him 4oz of water, that I have hidden by the bed to be used in case of an emergency, in the hope that it will lull him to sleep.

He glugs down the water, remains wide awake, and pushes the book to me. I am not going to get much sleep today. Tables have indeed turned..

Dinner: while I cook, he’s gives me company by lying flat on the floor right next to my feet.

kitchen2

kitchen1

I have to constantly walk over him (which for some strange reason I am loving! – being a dad is turning out to be a happy surprise a minute).

He has taken a delight in taking a bite, turning his face to the side of the high chair, and spitting it on the floor. Not seen that before – which makes me wonder if it’s my food or if this is a phase he’s going through. A stern reprimand evokes a delightful bust of laughter. This cycle continues with subsequent tries.

hmm..

I am wondering what to do now and find myself getting irritated. I put the spoon down and sternly look at him. He coos, picks up the spoon, digs into the food, and start gobbling the pasta and salmon down! I am taken aback, but I quickly recover, and start helping him put the food in the spoon. In short order, the plate is empty.

Looks like he’s ready to start eating by himself.

It’s time to sleep and I tell him that we will read the zoo book. He squeals with delight and heads to the bedroom. He forgotten about his “dudu”. After a good conversation with the animals, he’s off to dreamland.

My chotu…

No milk – Day 2

1am

Vivu is up, half asleep and groggily asking from milk. I wonder if it’s simply a matter of habit, or is he cold? or if he really wants milk. It’s also clear he wants to be in the bed and not in his crib. He’s got this unique way of propping himself against the crib, crying with all his might, and with his left hand finger pointing to the bed. I decide to wage one war and give in on the other. I give him water, but get him to the bed 🙂 Cuddling with him is indeed delightful. Thankfully he drinks a little of the water and goes back to sleep. I would classify this as a win-win

5 am

He’s up again but this time yelling for milk. This time I need some sleep and also have a full work day ahead, so I weigh my options. I look at him and see a determined look on his face, screams coming out of his little body, and lots of tears in his eyes. I decide to give him 6 oz of milk. He follows me down the stairs crying, which magically stops the moment I give him the milk bottle. On the way back to be bedroom he holds my finger, guides me to the bed, demands that I lie down next to him, which he does by vigorously patting the area next to him, nuzzles into my side and puts his head on my shoulder, and hands me the bottle to feed him.

I feel like the 6oz is worth it 🙂 Had someone told me a few year back that I would be enjoying all this, I wouldn’t have believed them.

715am

The king has woken up. Diaper is a little wet but not soaked through and through. That is a welcome change, so I celebrate by hugging him tight.

11:30am

On the way back from school his demands for “dudu” start. I distract him by showing him the sights along the way and soon he’s cooing looking at garbage trucks and trees. The drive back home is calm.

Once back though, he remembers that he hasn’t seen any “dudu” yet, so he jumps out of the car, runs flailing towards the lawn and flings himself on the grass. He then starts thrashing both his hands down on the lawn clearly demonstrating his displeasure. All this while making loud demands for his beloved “dudu”.

I hand him a bottle of cold water. He is confused as the bottle is big, is of stainless steel and heavy, and there is no nipple. He proceeds anyway to tear away the cap, which he throws aside with great flair, and puts the mouth of the bottle to his mouth. Water gushes out and wets his face, tshirt and shorts. He’s stunned for a bit and is not sure what just happened. The cold water has the additional benefit of cooling him down and the mad behavior subsides for a bit. Thankfully Sonia has arrived. I give her strict instructions to not give him any milk and then beat a hasty retreat 🙂

10pm

Have delayed putting him to bed as much as possible. He’s seeming a little delirious trying to put the lego pieces together. I ask him to say goodnight to the kitchen, a cue for us to head to the bedroom, and he faithfully gets up and follows me up the stairs into the bedroom. I pick up a book to read to him and steel myself for the inevitable showdown. We settle down into the bed, and I walk him through all animals of the zoo, what sounds they make, and how they are all ready to sleep now. After 15 mins of this, I tell him that it’s time for him to sleep too. I push him off me, turn off the light, and start praying. He turns around, cuddles into the pillow and starts snoring! I pinch myself to be sure this really happened, which it did, put him into his crib and get ready to eat dinner and watch an episode of Breaking bad! I think I have deserved it.

I am optimistic tomorrow morning will be his first ever dry diaper wake up! See you then.